I wrote this blog this morning on my work ‘intranet’ blog, but felt it pertinent for anyone who runs their own business, or in a Customer Service type role…
I started writing out my Vision yet again, and I always love how it is a ever evolving thing, never still or stationary – much like ourselves.
This time, I thought about what I wanted, but I found myself asking – why?
Why do I wish for these things for myself? What is the purpose of an individual goal/vision. Yes, it is relevant absolutely, as it is my life, a life, one life I am driving. Although it is definitely not separate to anything else in this world. So what is the purpose of fulfilling my goal or vision if nothing else surrounding me advances in its process?
There is a greater purpose at play, not just my speck of dust purpose in the pool of this varst ocean of people.
When I ‘achieve’ my vision so to speak, what does that mean for the rest of the world?
Are they still sitting on their butts thinking about the goals they wished they had of achieved? I hope not.
I wish for more go-getters in this life, imagine if the people that surrounded you and further, were as much of a go-getter as you are? What if the people around you cared equally, if not more for the planet that we live on? What would that mean to your life and the life of others? Something even more beautiful beyond comprehension right?
So what if our goals were about others? Not to cancel out our own, as I’m sure if you’re reading this, you are a progressed enough soul to acknowledge how many years you have been plugging away at your purpose and goals, no you are well aware of your wants, desires, challenges etc… and you’ve got them down.
This extends beyond that, this goes beyond personal responsibility. This moves into the next step, of responsibility for others. Not to take on theirs, but to teach them responsibility for self.
Much like the journey of Educator to Key Leader, from Key Leader to ASM and so on…
How we do one thing in life, we do everything.
Because you are an employee of xyz or self employed business owner, what does that mean in your life, your personal world? Who are you being outside of this role? Do you treat strangers the same way you would treat your work customers? Do you aim to inspire Greatness to the person serving your daily coffee or breakfast?
How do you inspire those around you, beyond the store, into being someone greater than they know themselves to be?
What kind of world do you want to live in? What will it look like around you when you’re reached your 10 year Vision?
During this time, as Mercury goes Retrograde for the next three weeks, I find myself deeply reflective of the past number of weeks. I can’t say how many.
If I’m really honest with myself – they have been somewhat challenging. The context seems irrelevant.
As if I attach to the context, that could be the very thing supporting me to feel challenged. Whereas if I surrender, I float in a bubble of purity & openness.
An old friend wrote to me this week, and what she wrote really landed.
“Yes I understand what you mean regarding the situation with your business. I wonder if it is a reset in some way due to the re-emergence of the feminine, inviting us as women to sit, to hold and allow creativity to emerge…….. rather than being born of action and goal setting……so masculine, so controling, where is the trust in that?”
These were her exact written words.
It’s SO profoundly true!
As women – we are still so masculine. Seeking to provide for our families, go to work, run a business, set goals, change the world. I don’t think there is anything wrong with this. But my friends words have me pondering.
Perhaps this paradigm shift is still VERY different from the ideas and that we/I are still driving.
Perhaps this reflective time for me is about completely rewriting my concept of life. Another opportunity to blow ideas from my mind, paving way for new inspired ways.
It’s not an easy ride I tell you.
To surrender it all takes courage. And damn right I am one helava courageous soul.
I release what I think I know, to arrive into the vast expanse of the unknown.
One of my biggest challenges in life so far is one of surrender.
Surrendering to what is, as opposed to what I want to be.
A lot of the time it is relatively easy. Surrendering to a rest when I wanted to exercise. Surrendering to not getting all the housework done when there are other to do’s to do. Surrendering to not going out with friends when I need to catch up with myself.
These are all lessons in there own regard, but one’s I’ve been able to go with the flow with.
But what if the lessons are a little larger to let go of, what if it is something that you can feel grips you until your breaking point?
Currently it feels as though my experience of life changes daily. What I thought I previously understood, changes in an instant!
Thoughts I’ve had about how to do something, or how I think something will unfold, can change as quickly as a thought.
And in that statement it says it all really.
Because everything that we believe is only a mere thought that can be changed in an instant.
And so to be in the experience of, is really all there is.
So how can one be attached to thoughts in life when they are mere fictions in our mind?
It is the conditioning of the mind, and the lessons of a lifetime to undo the conditioning of what we have learnt.
I find myself in observation of being attached to particular thoughts, only to discover that these are untrue.
My most recent one is recognizing how my Ego wants recognition.
Having commenced a ‘new’ job, one where I felt like I knew the basics of really well, I found it quite a challenge to be treated as a newbie and have to under go the training of it all over again.
I found that internally I was saying quite often “I know this, or I know that”.
It made me feel less than, to think that these people thought I knew nothing all over again.
(This wasn’t truth, merely my own projection of how I feel about myself).
And so my ego felt somewhat wounded, wounded through lack of recognition.
And in this, I realize how much I seek recognition. Recognition that I somehow know enough, and not just within the confines of my job, but in life.
I want people to recognize that I know what I know. To believe that I am as amazing as I believe myself to be.
I am aware of how I wish more than anything, for people to see me and be in awe of.
Which when I really ask myself, is not how I want to live my life. Being awed. I want everyone to recognize their own awe within. The Guru within.
This feels like one small puzzle piece in the recent jumbo puzzle that is unfolding. The one where I pulled my energies back into place, and saw that I no longer needed to ‘fit in’ to be accepted. That it is actually ok, to simply be me. And in aligning with simply being me, I am learning new lessons around this.
That now, people might not resonate with me, because I am me. And that that’s not my fault, or problem. I don’t need to change who I am in order to make them more comfortable or like me.
I have often kept myself in a safe space of creating an illusion of being on a pedestal. Not that I think that I’m any better than anyone else, but it has been a mechanism that has kept me safe. If I am ok, and somewhat understanding of those around me, then I cannot be vulnerable. Which again is another untruth. Because I am surrendering more and more to being vulnerable. If I am not open to being vulnerable, then how can I invite others to be?! However this is also something than continues to unfold.
Breaking down the confines of who you think you are, to move towards who you innately are, is one courageous feat, and I feel like it is something that does not end. Perhaps in stages within our lives we are confronted with greater shifts that need to happen, as opposed to the more subtle one’s that happen almost unknowingly like shedding dry skin in winter.
At times we are called to pull deep within our being in order to acknowledge our inner call, initially we might not like what we see, and might be in fear of what hides beneath, this is why it takes courage. Courage that cannot be found on Facebook or our Instagram feed. We all have the resources that will see us through this journey, but will we take it? We hear about it through our stories and our social media, but to personally undertake it, is such a different story. It is our own.
It may take us away from what we understand in life to be real, it may take us away from the people in our lives we thought would be there rain, hail or shine. It may feel lonely & isolating at times, and that no one is the world could understand what we’re experiencing.
The truth will set you free. And you will be & you are.
Free from the confines of your mind that has kept you trapped from a life that was created to keep you safe.
Safe from what? Well, I’ll let you explore that, and it will all become clear when you take your first steps towards your truth.
Be Your Own Guru – NO ONE CAN BE THAT FOR YOU!
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What it is, is different from one person to the next, as we are all individual souls here with a particular purpose.
I have been thinking about mine a lot with so much time on my hands at present. I recognize that the more time I have to myself, the greater I get to know myself. I’m not distracted by the external demands of being social, working at my job, a relationship (while Neil’s away), things that I would usually be busy-ing my time with.
I am learning how greatly sensitive I am, attuning to this tells me there is grand purpose in spending time with me.
After getting through the cold that I had last week, I found a routine to regularly meditate & clear energy each day. I connect with my heart & soul and ask it if it has a message to share with me. Some days I don’t get anything, but more often than not I get a message. Usually one simple word. Today it was Be. The other day it was Go. I have listened, and apparently our life is as simple as listening to our souls and taking action. Be. Be in each moment. So today, as I set about my day, my intention became to BE.
Currently not working, I can’t help but think about what will I do? What will be my income earner? I am SO conditioned to working, that I recognize I am in the discomfort of changing that belief or pattern. I know that I don’t want a job that is simply that, an income earner, and so in this beautiful period of not needing to work, I still can’t help but be curious – it’s the minds way – it wants to know the answers.
I am grateful and blessed to be able to finally watch and absorb the content from YouTube videos and Paul Cheks blogs that I just know I have a great purpose to follow. I resonate with the content I’m hearing & watching so greatly! My mind wants it NOW, it wants to feel the value of contribution of making a difference to the world, of being in action. But you know what, the balance of being in action, is inaction, not lazy, but rest. Yin & Yang. It is the nature of life. If I have great purpose, then its opposite is true too. Great rest. You know that old saying, the calm before the storm.
So what is purpose again? Is it action? Is it inaction? Or is it simply acting on your souls daily message to just BE.
As this blog names suggests, I wanted to share a story about what saying YES to your goals + dreams really means, share the process and the fears that can potentially pop up when we step up to say YES to the life we want.
Here we go;
I had a great lesson recently. It is regarding abundance, manifestations & desires. I received the opportunity to fly to Canada for 1 week, with 1 weeks notice.
My initial reaction was = CRAZY!! But this is my life. Crazy and spontaneous is exactly the way I like it, so I’d asked for this!
Neil (a previous romance, who I wasn’t over, who pulled on my heart strings like crazy, who lived in Canada) said to me; “if you can find a return flight to Canada for 2K, I’ll fly you over for my 30th birthday!”
“Deal.” was my response.
I called my travel agent Lucy, at Flight Centre straight away, to tell her my story. Straight away she was online checking flights. She found one with China Air for $2100.
“Do you want me to book it?
“Um, let me check with Neil first”. I wanted to confirm he was really THAT serious, as his request was only via Viber.
“Ok, let me see if I can hold it for you. Yep, I can only hold it until tomorrow 5pm. Will you confirm with me tomorrow, if you want to go ahead? How exciting!” Lucy replied.
Neil had gone to bed on his side of the world, so I had to wait patiently until the next morning to call him.
Me to Neil. “Are you serious about me coming over, because I found a flight!”
“Yeah, what do you think, do you want too?”
So now that that’s clear, I need to arrange the details. Work, Flights etc…
I ring Jess (my Manager at work), to explain my story and request my leave, to leave in ONE WEEK. Keep in mind here, that at work we were very tightly staffed AND a colleague was already granted leave for 3 weeks during this time! What was my possibility going to be? “So um, you know how I’m going to Canada for my working holiday next year, well Neil, this guy I love, well, he wants to fly me over for his birthday, like next week, and, well, can I take time off work in like a weeks time?”
“Wow! Absolutely, we can make that happen. We’ll just look at the rosters and see what we can do!”
Ok cool, so the work thing is now sorted. Now to call Lucy and confirm my ticket. I thought I’d ask Lucy about changing the dates a little, because in my haste to search dates, I hadn’t really looked at my work schedule, I was more concerned with finding a 2K flight. She checked out some alternatives, but discovered that overnight, all flights had gone UP an extra $1500!! Not mine, because it had been held & secured. Talk about bloody luck!
I confirm with Lucy that this was going ahead and Neil is paying. After hanging up, I follow her email prompts to pay using his Credit Card. Because I was using his Canadian Credit Card, the Australian payment page was giving me a declined message. His card wouldn’t work in Australia. I call Lucy back, she suggested he could pay via BPAY. She gives me the codes, and I contact Neil and ask him to give this way a go.
On the phone with Lucy again, two further suggestions.
Over the phone & bank transfer.
As I am about to give Lucy Neils’ CC digits, I felt prompted to ask her; “I’m ok to travel aren’t I? My passport is valid until November this year, I’m still good right?”
“Noooooo” she replies. “You can’t travel with less than 6 months validity on your passport!”
“Whatdyamean, I can’t fly with less than 6 months validity, what’s the purpose of an expiration date on a passport, if you can’t fly up until it expires?”
“I’m not 100% sure why, but I know you can’t travel. Maybe call the embassy and double check. You can order an emergency passport”.
This is the point where I begin to ask myself;
– should I really be going
– why don’t I just wait until I go properly next year
– I’ll have more time to arrange my passport
– probably wasn’t meant to happen anyway
– I’m not paying for an emergency passport
– what a crazy idea – it was fun to think about & explore…
This is where my fear, rears its doubt & fearful reasoning…
This is the main crux of my story. That point, or threshold where we’re likely SO familiar.
The ego mind that is telling us that our dreams were just that. A dream. A nice idea and a fictional reality to indulge in.
Where we tell ourselves – ‘I could never do that – that’s crazy!’
That point of reasoning where we back down from that very thing that we want, when it’s almost within reach, when moving forward means stepping up into potential discomfort and GROWTH and OWNING what we want.
That’s right OWNING your dreams.
THE TURNING POINT
I call Neil, feeling a little defeated, like something has just died inside me. I explain to him about my passport & how I couldn’t travel. Here’s what he said.
“Just get a new one.”
Unattached to my story, my emotion, my thoughts. ‘Just get a new one!’
My story spills out of my mouth; “blah blah blah money, time, passport, how, money blah blah blah” (you get my jist, you heard it all above.)
“Don’t worry about it baby. I’ll pay for it. Call the travel agent, book the ticket, apply for a new passport, get your bum here, it’ll be fine.”
I hop off the phone, feeling like I’ve been pushed to my edges. My story has been blasted to smithereens and I’ve now got no excuse in the book, to stop me from going to Canada in 6 days time. 6 days! A passport in 6 days!
I call the embassy. They spell out the steps required to order an emergency passport in simple black & white. Simple. It’s actually really simple. Today is Wednesday. I calculate that I can head into the city Thursday afternoon to order my passport, pick it up Tuesday afternoon, then fly to Canada Wednesday. I’m not leaving the courier to chance. No way – I’m picking this puppy up myself!
PAYING FOR THE FLIGHT
It’s now 12:30pm, and I start work at 1pm. I have 30 mintues to drive to work & 4.5hrs to pay for my ticket. Should be easy.
I’m on the phone to Lucy again. This time we’re trying Neil’s Credit Card payment over the phone.
My ego speaks up again;
– maybe you’re not meant to be going
– if we pull out now, we’ll be safe, you won’t have to stress about an emergency passport. Shhhhhhh I tell it.
Lucy asks me if I can pay. Sadly that isn’t an option at the moment. I ask her about the bank transfer option she’d mentioned previously. Her Manager had removed pulled this off the table, saying the funds wouldn’t clear fast enough from Canada in time to pay for the ticket.
My options were out!
I’ve now left for work, driving, trying to figure out what I can do. Who can I borrow $2000 from? Who asks people for this kind of money?? How bad do I want to go to Canada for my dears birthday? I wanna go. Bad!
A name appears in my minds eye. Jules.
Jules: noun Your nearest and dearest bestie. Your nearest and dearest bestie who has just had a baby. Your nearest and dearest bestie who has just had a baby and has a 3 year old toddler. Your nearest and dearest bestie who has just had a baby, has a 3 year told toddler, and has just purchased her first family home with her partner.
Could I really be so cheeky to ask her to borrow this money? But it’s just until funds clear from Canada. But I still have to ask the question. It’s NEVER comfortable asking anybody for money. Coffee money. Lunch money. Let alone a $2000 ticket to Canada!
I have Eddie Murphys impression of Bill Cosby playing in my head. “Neeeed the money, to buy the ticKET! Get the money, to get the ticKET!” I call Jules, and I tell her my story, I ask if she can lend me the money to buy the ticKET. (without the Bill Cosby impersonation). I can tell that she wants to help me, but know it’s a loaded question. This is confirmed because she needs to speak to her partner, to get the all clear.
10 MINUTES PASS
I’ve arrived at my destination, and I’m walking from my car into work. Jules has called back. She’s spoken with her partner, and they’ve agreed they will help me, but need to know that the money is going to make it’s way straight back to them.
I feel my Solar Plexus.
I get this.
It’s a lot of money to request, give, and trust for anyone. Let alone a new family with 2 kids and a brand new mortgage.
I’m at work now.
I ask Jules if she would kindly call Lucy for me. Not having explained to Lucy what has actually happened in the past 30 minutes.
5 minutes later a text comes through from Jules.
YOU’RE GOING TO CANADA!!
The rest of the story falls into place from here. I got my passport easy. I got my shifts covered easy. Everybody at work said YES to covering me. Another dear friend even volunteered to swap her shifts at work so she could drive me to the airport! Easy. Everything was EASY! I said YES.
The universe said YES.
In summary, the point of my story sharing, is to illustrate that crucial crux point. That sticky threshold between choosing to stay where we are, or choosing to step up into something new.
Do you really want your dreams and desires in life, stepping up to the call and taking action?
Do you just keep doing what you’ve always done, continuing to achieve the same outcome?
I’ve shared this story with a few friends, and their response has been one of awe & inspiration! I hope by sharing it here with you, it will inspire you to notice your sticky points, step up to OWN your dreams and desires also.
They are your god-given (or spirit, universe, soul….) birthright. They are available to you right NOW!